Commitment; how do you really know when you’re ready for a committed relationship? Is it something that you tell yourself after being exhausted with past relationship failures? Is it a settlement within you? Or an influence from society saying, at the age of X you should be married or seriously involved with someone? Maybe it’s information that’s passed down from generation to generation that informs you that the time is now.

These days it seems like more and more people are wishy washy as fuck. I mentioned on Facebook the other day that you can never really know what a person is thinking unless they tell you and even if they do tell you it could all be a complete lie and unsurprisingly, a lot of people felt the same way. So how is it that you, the individual, can meet someone and fall in love and comfortably agree to commit? What is the deciding factor within you to confirm that this is it? And what signals can that person send to you that would give you the green light to know that they’re serious about committing to you…for real? Lol Seriously, I wanna know. A reported study by a source somewhere on the god damn internet says that about 70% of straight unmarried couples break up within the first year. Why are people so prone to break up in the beginning? Could it be that we’re not asking all the right questions in the beginning? Or are we asking the right questions but fabricating all the answers?

I have reason to believe that we’re getting involved in relationships with no real understanding as to why we even want the relationship. Some people have been single for so long that all they know is independence so anything that behooves that seems like a threat, but not at first. Ladies when you meet a man and he gives you that satisfying feeling of completion and he grows to become your first thought of the morning and your last thought at night, it’s safe to say that a soft spot is born. You’re affectionate, understanding, caring, patient, and lenient. As the days go by you get to know him more and I suppose that’s when the layers of each person’s individuality is peeled back and collectively you become more aware of who you’re dealing with.

I think it’s because we’re expecting way too much from the relationship too soon. Nothing worth having or enduring is simple at first, right? When you meet a new friend and you have a disagreement and fall out, you stop talking to each other for a couple of days until someone eventually breaks the silence, you make up and you bounce back stronger than ever. Why can’t relationships work this way? Nowadays, you fall out with your man/woman; you break up, and move on. Who even has time for that? Who has the time to keep starting over with new people and getting to know a whole new personality all over again just because you can’t recover from disagreements? Society is now making couples that look good together #relationshipgoals. That’s a part of a brewing problem; we love the idea of the relationship, but the groundwork to sustain it not so much. We’re not patient enough anymore, we want what’s in the picture but we’re not developing the negatives…lol get it? I’ll touch on this more in depth with better examples, for now this was just a thought that crossed my mind so until next time, love and light.

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