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Relationship too soon?

Commitment; how do you really know when you’re ready for a committed relationship? Is it something that you tell yourself after being exhausted with past relationship failures? Is it a settlement within you? Or an influence from society saying, at the age of X you should be married or seriously involved with someone? Maybe it’s information that’s passed down from generation to generation that informs you that the time is now.

These days it seems like more and more people are wishy washy as fuck. I mentioned on Facebook the other day that you can never really know what a person is thinking unless they tell you and even if they do tell you it could all be a complete lie and unsurprisingly, a lot of people felt the same way. So how is it that you, the individual, can meet someone and fall in love and comfortably agree to commit? What is the deciding factor within you to confirm that this is it? And what signals can that person send to you that would give you the green light to know that they’re serious about committing to you…for real? Lol Seriously, I wanna know. A reported study by a source somewhere on the god damn internet says that about 70% of straight unmarried couples break up within the first year. Why are people so prone to break up in the beginning? Could it be that we’re not asking all the right questions in the beginning? Or are we asking the right questions but fabricating all the answers?

I have reason to believe that we’re getting involved in relationships with no real understanding as to why we even want the relationship. Some people have been single for so long that all they know is independence so anything that behooves that seems like a threat, but not at first. Ladies when you meet a man and he gives you that satisfying feeling of completion and he grows to become your first thought of the morning and your last thought at night, it’s safe to say that a soft spot is born. You’re affectionate, understanding, caring, patient, and lenient. As the days go by you get to know him more and I suppose that’s when the layers of each person’s individuality is peeled back and collectively you become more aware of who you’re dealing with.

I think it’s because we’re expecting way too much from the relationship too soon. Nothing worth having or enduring is simple at first, right? When you meet a new friend and you have a disagreement and fall out, you stop talking to each other for a couple of days until someone eventually breaks the silence, you make up and you bounce back stronger than ever. Why can’t relationships work this way? Nowadays, you fall out with your man/woman; you break up, and move on. Who even has time for that? Who has the time to keep starting over with new people and getting to know a whole new personality all over again just because you can’t recover from disagreements? Society is now making couples that look good together #relationshipgoals. That’s a part of a brewing problem; we love the idea of the relationship, but the groundwork to sustain it not so much. We’re not patient enough anymore, we want what’s in the picture but we’re not developing the negatives…lol get it? I’ll touch on this more in depth with better examples, for now this was just a thought that crossed my mind so until next time, love and light.



How can I say you’re my friend if I have to ask myself this question? Questions are only posed when the mind or heart is in doubt and an answer is the only cure for relief.  I hate going through these particular labyrinths…it’s hard enough to have to find my way through but now I have to find my way through while making sure that I’m not trying to make it through for the wrong reasons.  I don’t want to commit to a situation that will only cause me harm, but now the only way to be loyal is to commit and the only way to decipher if it’s dangerous or not is if I…commit.  What do you do when your intuition has questions? If you are who you say you are to me then why don’t I believe you? I believe the weatherman when he says its 75 degrees outside & there may be a slight chance of rain…and I don’t even know that man. It’s funny how life works itself out.  If life works itself out so well I believe it’s only fit that life trains me…and it has..because of the intense workout plan of life, I trust no one.

Please don’t fault me for being cautious…please don’t hold me responsible for the unease of your heart…please don’t blame me for your uncertainty… and please don’t burden me with the thought that all the things I’m asking politely for is in vain.  I just want the best for me.  Every time I lose focus on what the best is for Cherokee…for Juliet…shit gets real.  My passion lives within my soul and I share it with whomever I feel will respect it, try to understand it, and care enough to stifle self righteous endeavors to accommodate it; Besides….that’s what I’d do.  I’d look beyond the demand of my own heart to relieve the strain that the demand of my friend’s dream is causing on their heart…that’s passion. You feel it, you share it, you feed it, you receive it, you Become.

I’m a pollen grain trapped in a beehive… vulnerable to being ridiculed, mistreated, and an edifying source of satisfaction to the one{s} who feel my sincerity and play me for it.  What am I supposed to do? It tears me up inside to know that I have so much love to give not necessarily intimate love, but genuine platonic love.  Love is an action that creates feelings that stick.  I care so much about so much and to see this is to believe it and folks take advantage so much.  I observe with my spirit, it discerns right from wrong…good from evil and levitates my existence so existing shouldn’t be so hard…but it is.

I’m not upset or unhappy with the way the relationships in my life are progressing…or not.  I’m concerned.  I attract what I want and evade what I despise, I love what & who I care about while pacing my mind to believe that all of this is okay.  When things go wrong I take the blame because I should know better, like I should have known when to end that conversation or when to question that situation.  Intuition…that’s your job right Mr. Intuition?? Aren’t you supposed to step in as a quick adviser, my trustworthy inner consultation headquarters, lodged in place to give my conscious reasoning a break? Lol I dunno it all yo…I just know that when a feeling is created it’s not summoned for the sake of merely existing. It’s there to raise garnish what whomever is involved is feeding off of…wow…I’m in over my head now…all I want is to be understood…and to understand why is it that I have to take mental voyages through personal experiences and things that I’ve learned to try to decipher the intentions of a “true friend.”

Let Me Through Please...

Life goes on, it always will and sometimes there’s no real way of knowing beforehand what you’re getting into unless you take a leap of faith and simply, get into it.  I approach life with caution…adhere to my responsibility…avoid shifting blame…and write profusely and pray impulsively to shift any burden that the demand of a stately living may require by pushing them through the avenues that I’ve set up to dilute them and immortalize them in a manner where the next man can learn from my mishap, if any, and do just the same.  And even after all of that, I still don’t know who you are.  I guess we never really know until the shit hits the fan huh? *Shrugs*

~The Lyricist

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